Whitney Boole - Trauma Expert, Therapist & Author
Whitney Boole is a trauma expert, therapist, and author of “You Got This: Healing Through Divorce”. As a therapist, Whitney works with clients to find the approach that fits them best. Every person is different, and Whitney meets her clients where they are to get a clear picture of what their goals are from the onset.
Whitney’s road to becoming a therapist was not paved with rainbows and unicorns, but with obstacles of her own. Helping other people face their own challenges is a gift she cherishes, and Whitney genuinely enjoys working with clients who struggle with issues including depression, anxiety, relationship struggles, codependency, infidelity, parenting, trauma, addiction, and grief and loss. Whitney also likes working with couples — it’s amazing to witness two people facing their own and each other’s flaws while being committed enough to each other to work through it.
Whitney obtained her Masters in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University and her Bachelors in Communication Studies at UCLA where she graduated Phi Beta Kappa. In addition, she completed training and certification in EMDR through Emdria. Her focus is on her clients' needs and goals, offering a compassionate non-judgmental approach to psychotherapy.
In addition to being a therapist, Whitney is a mom with three kids, including a set of twins. She understands firsthand the pressures of parenthood, and the difficulties parents face finding balance and maintaining a clear sense of self. In her new book, You Got This: Healing Through Divorce, Whitney has created a guide-book and resource for healing and empowerment through divorce. She shares therapeutic tools for healing, as well as her own stories from the trenches as a single mom of three who survived her own painful divorce.
Whitney truly believes that the greater the adversity, the greater the opportunity for change and triumph. Being a witness to clients who embrace the journey and find meaning and strength in their own pain is a gift she treasures. I can’t wait for you guys to learn more, connect with Witney, and follow along!
I'd love it if you'd introduce yourself, what you do, and what you're working on.
My name is Whitney Boole. I’m a therapist in private practice in Hermosa Beach. I’m also a writer and just published a book about the trauma of divorce and healing from it called “You Got This: Healing from Divorce.” I’m a single mom with three kids and someone who went through a very painful divorce and came out of it feeling empowered. I love helping people heal through trauma, and I also love to write. I am currently developing a therapeutic course with a coaching component for people going through a divorce from someone with toxic behaviors and/or a personality disorder.
How did you get started?
I was a writer before I was a therapist and worked in film & television. I was in the WGA but work was sporadic and the roller coaster of the business was not a good fit for me. I think I went back to grad school and got my Master in Clinical Psychology thinking that I could fix my then-husband and eventually realized that I could only fix me. My divorce jump-started my career — I found myself with 2 year old twins and an 8 year old terrified and having to hurry up and complete my licensure. It was the start of an incredible journey — I have a private practice across the street from the beach in Hermosa Beach and I write every chance I get for the joy of it rather than to sell a script.
What inspired the work that you're doing?
My own growth in therapy drove me to want to be a therapist. My own divorce inspired me to write a book about divorce. My personal experiences and struggles in life have made me a better therapist and fueled my writing and overall growth.
What is your biggest passion? Do you feel like you're living your passion and purpose?
My biggest passions are helping people heal, writing, and enjoying quality time with my kids. I am inspired by helping people find the meaning in their pain and trauma. I enjoy writing — there’s not as much time for it but I do my best to make time. And I love spending time with my kids and get to coach my youngest kids’ softball and baseball teams which is tons of fun. The biggest change in me since my divorce is that I stopped settling and started doing. I don’t have time to watch TV right now and sometimes I miss that downtime, but I am moving forward and I’m genuinely excited by my work and projects.
What is your joy blueprint? What lights you up, brings you joy, and makes you feel the most alive?
Connection and authenticity light me up, bring me joy and make me feel alive. My joy blueprint is simple: connecting to others in a meaningful way either in my office, in my writing and work, or with my friends and family.
How do you live intentionally? Are there tools/resources/practices that you rely on to help you stay mindful and grounded?
I meditate every morning for 10-20 min and run 5 miles most days. Exercise and meditation help me sift through my thoughts and anxiety so that I can be more present, mindful and grounded.
What would your younger self think about what you're doing now?
Interesting question… my younger self might be scared — I never imagined I’d be a single mom with three kids.
Do you have a go-to mantra or affirmation?
Yes. Two of them:
1. Be here now.
2. Whether you think that you can or you can’t, you’re right.
What is your biggest dream?
This. Looking forward to the next project. Feeling excited about what I’m working on and what’s next. I can’t wait to complete my course so I have the space to start rewriting my novel. And I am grateful for every moment I get to spend enjoying time with my kids and people I love and care about.
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